Hello Beautiful Soul,

You may have come here because you have experienced narcissistic abuse. Possibly the covert type, the most difficult to recognize.

I want you to know you are not alone. I’ve been there and I so understand the pain and confusion.

I also want you to know that what you are going through could eventually become the catalyst that will lead you to deep healing and an awakening of who you really are. You are magnificent, and anything you have been told that contradicts that message, has nothing to do with you, but is only a projection from someone else who is not seeing you or themselves clearly.

I’m glad you are here.

Feel free to look around. You will find online courses, guided meditations, books, music, and other resources.

If you are looking for more information on covert narcissism, you can receive a free chapter of my book when you subscribe to my newsletter. Reading this will help you know if this is what you are experiencing.

You are worthy and deserving of kindness, love, and respect.

There are answers and there is hope.

Always with love,

Debbie Mirza

BOOKS BY DEBBIE

“The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist” by Debbie Mirza - voted one of the Best Books on Narcissism by a team of licensed therapists and doctors.
Click here to read the review.

THERAPIST REVIEWS

Debbie’s books on narcissism and healing have been endorsed by many licensed therapists.
Here are some things they have said about her books:

The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist

“The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist brings a massive sigh of relief to people who have been involved with, were raised by, or worked with someone who has made them feel crazy, exhausted, depressed, unworthy, guilty, terrified, and chronically anxious, while they charmed and amazed others. Debbie Mirza provides insight, answers, and healing to those who have wondered whether they have been abused by a narcissist but have not found themselves or their answers in the current literature on narcissist abuse. As a clinical psychologist for over 20 years, I find that The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist fills in the missing pieces in this field for clinicians and victims alike. Debbie clarifies this phenomenon/ personality disorder when I have struggled to explain it in my own life and in the stories of countless patients. You aren’t crazy: this book helps you identify and name the abuse—so you can be free to truly reclaim your life.”

Dr. Robin LW Alchin Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Dana Point, CA

“As a psychotherapist, this book has proven to be an outstanding, effective tool to help clients in these types of relationships be able to finally understand and clearly know what they are dealing with. The author does an excellent job of clearly identifying and providing a name to all the ‘’crazy-making” behaviors the covert passive-aggressive narcissist does in order to make my clients feel like they are never enough. It identifies those gaslighting behaviors and dissects and defines them one by one, in a clear, concise way with lots of real-life examples. Before I read this book, I didn’t have the words to describe a dysfunctional relationship of this sort. Now I do...and it has made a world of difference to my clients by not only improving their lives but also eliminating depression and anxiety symptoms which were a result of the covert passive-aggressive narcissist’s behaviors.” 

Pam Hauke, MSW, LCSW, SAC 

Worthy of Love

"To say my professional world was rocked when I read Debbie Mirza’s The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist is only a mild exaggeration. After all, as a decades-long psychotherapist, I thought I knew pretty much what there was to know about narcissism. How wrong I was. In that book, Debbie did nothing short of expanding the clinical, “textbook” understanding of narcissism—introducing entirely new ways to think about narcissists and how we identify them.

Lucky for us, Debbie Mirza has done it again with Worthy of Love. And thank goodness! With her trademark generous spirit, she allows us a window into her own painful experience and recovery journey. The confusion, the strange physical ailments, the sheer breakdown of self that comes part and parcel with narcissistic relationships. All real. But what do we do with all of it? How do we heal?

Worthy of Love spells out the steps Debbie took to heal herself. She stresses the need for deprogramming and rebuilding after narcissistic abuse and she shares with you, dear reader, just how to get that done. Debbie asks the hard questions—she even provides space for you to answer them!—while gently guiding you toward fully loving and trust- ing yourself again after narcissistic abuse.

Perhaps most importantly, Debbie reminds us we are not crazy, and we are not alone in this. We can find our way back to wholeness and peace. You may be starting this process from a place of emotional chaos, thinking you may never recover your peace of mind or return to your old self. Fear not. With Debbie at the helm, you’re in the most capable of hands.

— Abby Rodman, Psychotherapist and Co-Host of the Sisters Cracking Up podcast

As a mental health professional working with survivors of abusive relationships, I am always looking for tools to assist in the journey of healing. Debbie Mirza has given us an invaluable resource with this book. Worthy of Love is a compassionate guidebook packed full of insight and practical advice. Included are healing exercises designed to allow the reader space to reflect on their own experience. Debbie addresses questions which tend to haunt survivors, such as:

“How did I let myself be treated this way?” “Will I ever feel like myself again?” “How do I know who to trust?”

She shares parts of her own story and in doing so, offers hope for a life of resilience and joy to survivors who are caught in the confusion and pain of recovering from toxic relationships. Debbie’s gentle approach gives the reader the sense of a wise, supportive friend who is walking with them step by step on their path toward wholeness. This offering from Debbie Mirza will be a staple in my personal library and a recommendation for any of my clients seeking to rebuild their lives and trust themselves again.

— Elizabeth Brekelbaum, Licensed Professional Counselor 

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